Hidden Accounts, Missing Money, and Financial Fog: What to Watch For
If you have a gut feeling something is off, listen.
Women are socialized to doubt themselves. Men are socialized to protect assets.
That combination is dangerous in divorce.
Common Red Flags
New accounts you don’t recognize
Business income that “doesn’t make sense”
Large cash withdrawals
Sudden debt
Missing statements
Overly vague answers about money
These are not quirks. They are signals.
Where Money Is Commonly Hidden
Business accounts
Cash-heavy side work
Cryptocurrency
Accounts in family members’ names
Deferred compensation
Venmo/PayPal accounts
Yes, really.
Why This Matters
Once divorce is filed, financial behavior changes.
Money moves. Access tightens.
If you wait until after, you are already behind.
What You Can Do
Screenshot statements
Download records
Track balances
Run your credit
Keep notes
You’re not accusing. You’re documenting.
There is a difference.
The Hard Truth
Most women discover financial deception too late.
Not because they were dumb. Because they were trusting.
Trust is not a strategy.
You Deserve Clarity
Breaking Upward helps you see clearly before things get cloudy.
